Do soon-to-be-fathers go through a 'nesting phase' ?

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Do soon-to-be-fathers go through a 'nesting phase' ?

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Do soon-to-be-fathers go through a \"nesting phase\"?

In my world, yes.

Whatever the psychological reason, I've been experiencing what I can only describe as the \"nesting phase\" defined in all the books as something expectant mothers go through.

Yep, this past week or so, I've been frantically working to finish everything around the house to get ready for my son to enter the world. I've been cooking, cleaning, moving baby furniture in and old furniture out (we live in a third-floor condo, so this was some serious work!), re-organizing closets, taking extra stuff to Goodwill, more cooking, more cleaning, unpacking and assembling baby shower gifts... etc.

I'm really worn out. Is this unusual for a husband? Or am I just suffering the results of being a procrastinator for so long? :P
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If you and your wife are close, I'd say you were right on track!

I'm sure Cuda could embellish more on this topic. ;)
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That sounds like mere preparation. You sure won't have the time afterwards!

When I get ready for potential dating, I do the same thing. I just painted every room in my house, for instance... :)
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NO it's called get the place in shape before a hormonal wife and a screaming kid enter the house after a stay at a hospital.

You are preparing for the time when you WILL HAVE NO SLEEP

The hardest adjustment of any newborn is the time shift. where as Jr/Missy was so accustomed to sleeping during the day and having fun at night (in mom's womb) has a rude awakening, wondering why you insist on disrupting their already proven sleep schedule.


I unfortunately lucked out, my wife was working night shifts....to a point, so baby was right on track as far as the sleep schedule went. So.. I just had to adjust for the hormonally challenged wife as she regressed from full baby mode into breast feeding mode

Female = Nesting
Male = CYA

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I haven't slept in 2 1/2 years....

As far as nesting, I think couples go through that together, but each does different things, and it varies from person to person.


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Yes - you're nesting. Enjoy it. :lol:

Yes - you will not sleep again for months, maybe years. Enjoy sleep now while you can :)

Yes - your wife will undergo an enormous transformation. Prepare for it. :o

You will never again be in sole control of your life. Get used to it. :wink:

...Fatherhood - there's nothing like it! 8)
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I feel that pressure, and we're not even pregnant yet. This bathroom renovation is past its 2nd year now, and I'm itching like mad to finish it so I can get other things in the queue done and get all organized and ready for that next big stage of life.
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BUBBALOU wrote:NO it's called get the place in shape before a hormonal wife and a screaming kid enter the house after a stay at a hospital.
X 1,000,000,000,000

That certainly was my motivation. I think it also depends on what child we are talking about. With my first, we did everything ahead of time. It was very important that every detail was perfect. Our second child is now 6 1/2 months old and still living in our room because we haven't gotten the nursery ready yet. :lol:
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Post by BUBBALOU »

Rule #1 - Always agree with Pregnant/New Mother

Rule #2 - When Rule #1 is Against all logical common sense, refer to Rule #3

Rule #3 - Write down the situation in your little black book to blackmail her at a later time, go to Rule #4

Rule #4 - Never argue your point of view, you will never win against over productive female hormones wait until they subside (about 13 Months), Go to Rule #1

Side note : after birth it's like the first trimester again with the EXTREME change in hormones, get her to breastfeed to reduce the detox. Also get some Fenugreek from GNC to help her and you.(you being the fact she smells like a stack of pancakes)

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Hmmm, I've alway enjoyed teasing my wife about her mood swings during the pregnancy, holding her hand and helping her breathe during labor/delivery, enjoying my week of vacation time from work to do the cleaning and cooking after the birth, (she's always been home within 24 hrs, except when we had them at home) and really enjoyed holding my newborns a lot during that first week.

The wife's always been back up and going after that week. It can be a really good time.

I've been through 7, and they've all been fun.

Of course eventually they become teenagers........
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AHHHHHH Parent-hood.

It was the best of times,
It was the worst of times. :P
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CUDA wrote:AHHHHHH Parent-hood.

It was the best of times,
It was the worst of times. :P
LMAO.. you coward. :lol:
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Post by d3jake »

Now Foil, if you have a strange urge to collect sticks, fluffy things, along with shiny objects, making them into a circular place in which to rest, you may want to get yourself checked out....

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Post by Pandora »

hehehe, I didn't go through a nesting phase, but a sympathetic eating phase --- i gained about 7kg during her pregnancy, and now, a year later, everything is gone again without needing to diet.

P.S. my biggest tip: get one of these. Our little one would not go to sleep without being near our bodies, and he would wake up as soon as we left the room. These were a life saver, we could always have him hanging around us whatever we did ... I even played descent with one of them on.
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